The Dealbreaker - TUCKER

First of all, I have to agree with Andy and her post regarding the sheer exhaustion of online dating after working a 9 hour day. Once I get home from my various evening plans, the absolute last thing I want to do is go on my computer and look at the guys who are trying to communicate with me. Because BELIEVE me there are some doozies out there.
Doozy of the week:
This sweet guy sent me a message, and said all the right things. He wrote me about his amazing job (showing his stability), his volunteer work with kids (showing how he cares about others), how much he loves his family (score in my book), and asked me questions about myself (showing that he isn’t completely self involved). Seems fairly normal, right? WRONG. Oh so VERY wrong. He also asked for my phone number, and I thought, “oh what the heck” and gave it to him. He proceeded to text me every day for a week, which doesn’t seem horrible, because we were just getting to know each other… until he started texting me questions that are not what I call “text friendly”. Exhibit a) “what made you go into your specialty in nursing?” Exhibit B) “what type of things do you do for fun?” At this point I’m screaming at my phone, “JUST CALL ME!” I do realize I could have taken the initiative to call him, but let’s be honest, I just didn’t want to.
So FINALLY 7 days later, he called me. But I was working, and he didn’t leave a message. So I called him back, and he didn’t answer, but I did leave a message. Then he called me back--- I’ll stop here, but believe me, this went on ALL night. A full twenty four hours later we finally talked on the phone. We talked for TWO hours. Everything was going well, very nice guy, great phone skills, asked me all sorts of questions, answered my questions and even had witty answers. Then he mentioned how he and some friends send emails regarding current events in sports. I asked if Tiger Woods had been a topic of conversation this week, because I mean COME ON, it’s the story of the week. He chuckled and said yes… and he proceeded, out of the blue, to tell me this story basically demonstrating his thoughts on cheating.
“So I was dating this girl in college, and we were perfect for each other. Totally best friends, it was the best relationship. Then one night I was out at the bar without her and found myself flirting with all these girls, and I knew where this was headed and knew it was not going to end well.” OK, well at this point I thought, “well great, at least he’s self aware and knows when he’s about to cross the line”. But then he continues… “So I left the bar and went and broke up with my girlfriend. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I was crying, she was crying. And she said, ‘you can’t break up with me because of “what if” you cheat on me!’” And blog readers, he responded to his sobbing girlfriend, “it’s not a ‘what if’ I cheat on you, it’s a ‘when’ because it will happen.”
SERIOUSLY?!?!?
So basically he broke up with his girlfriend so that he could go hook up with other chicks. And he’s telling this story to someone he potentially would like to date? DEALBREAKER.
Did I mention that he prefaced this story with, “well this might ruin everything, but whatever”. Probably should’ve listened to that little inner voice, dude. Unfortunately this does not sound like someone I would like to get to know better or date… and get dumped by in two months, because he just “knows” he’s going to cheat on me. Did I also mention that he’s divorced? He failed to mention any of the details of that relationship…
Apparently he’s a firm believer of “the grass is always greener on the other side.” While I’m a firm believer that we are never going out.
Aaaaaaand I’m back at square one.

On a side note, the four of us would LOVE to hear any thoughts, comments or questions you may have.