Confessions of a (not very good) dater - GEORGINA

This is my confession (oh hey Usher): I have not physically logged on to eHarmony in over a week. I feel guilty about this, I honestly do. I just have ZERO motivation. I know I am being rude to the (few) guys who are waiting for a reply back. And…I’m maybe being rude to the guy who texted me a few days ago to get together and whom I never texted back. Oops.

And maybe I’m leading the rude Canadian on by agreeing to go see a movie with him next week…when I have absolutely no intention of following through.

See, I’m very much the “faze out” girl. Yes, I am that girl. Andy and I have actually gotten in a shouting match (in the bathroom) over my faze out tactics (she thinks it’s rude. I happen to agree with her, but just not to the point where I’ll actually confront it).

Worst. eHarmony. Client. Ever.

Let me try to make this a little better for myself. I WILL go on eHarmony in the next few days to catch up on my matches. Do not worry, little readers. I’m not, as Tucker said to me, putting all my eggs in one basket. I guess I’m just catching up with Andy’s case of the 9-5s. How many more first dates can I take? I’m starting to bore myself with repetitions of the same old information (name, age, job/career, what I do for fun…). Next date I go on (addendum: the next date that I see no future 2nd date possibility with) I might spice it up a little by making up some creative and entertaining (for myself) information.

Feel free to leave comments with any amusing and imaginative suggestions you may have. I’m thinking childhood in the circus type stuff.

Maybe you’d like an update on my old dates?
Date #1 (undisclosed and insecure divorced guy): never called me. Mayyybe he could tell I was not interested when I said I was sick and bailed? To my credit, I WAS sick. But I probably could have held out a little longer.
Date #2 (the goooooood one): we’re going out this weekend. :) :) :)
Date #3 (the rude Canadian): he keeps calling and texting me. He wanted to see a movie this weekend; I said I had friends coming into town (true story). He granted that was fair (thanks so much), and said we would go out early next week, instead. Not if I can help it.

I’m slowly realizing that while this whole online dating thing may be kind of a game to me, it’s probably not to most of the guys who are communicating with me. It’s fair to say that most of the men who are on eHarmony really do want to find a girl to settle down with and get married. I said to one of the guys I went out with, that I could get married tomorrow (if I found the right person) or I could get married when I was 75 and be perfectly content for the time I was still single. What is most important to me is to be happy. Point being, I’m just not in this huge rush to the alter. Life will be lived and will go on regardless of whether I’m married or single. But for me and the sake of this experiment, it’s probably not fair to communicate with a guy I realllllly do not ever see being in to, simply for the sake of writing about it. Is that bad?

Slash, it will diminish the number of faze outs I actually have to orchestrate. And that’s always a plus.